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Bridal Shower Gift Etiquette

When it comes to gift-giving for a bridal shower, there are a few helpful tips that you can take into consideration before purchasing your gift. If you’re attending a bridal shower, you should always bring a gift with you to congratulate the bride. Even if you’re apart of the bridal party or wedding party, a gift is still necessary. Keep in mind that your bridal shower gift is separate from your wedding gift so you’ll want to prepare two unique gifts for the bride-to-be.

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How Much to Spend on a Bridal Shower Gift?

The standard amount to spend on a bridal shower gift is a minimum of $50 if you’re unsure of your relationship with the bride-to-be. Regular friends, co-workers, or distant family members should consider spending $75-$100 if they have the budget to spare. Close friends or close family members should consider spending anywhere between $75-$150 for a bridal shower gift.

Since you’re attending the bridal shower and the wedding, you can plan out gift amounts for both occasions to stay within your overall budget. Visit our easy guide on wedding gift etiquette to calculate how much you should spend on your both bridal shower gift and your wedding gift, based on your relationship with the bride and groom.

What to Buy for a Bridal Shower Gift?

Choosing a bridal shower gift is fun when you know what you’re looking for. Consider the type of shower you’re attending before choosing a gift first. This piece of information is often specified in the bridal shower invitation wording. You’ll want to choose a different gift for a couple wedding shower versus a bridal shower.

If the bride has a bridal or wedding registry, you can also let her pre-approved suggestions guide you. Here’s a bit of helpful context for selecting an appropriate bridal shower gift:

For a Traditional Bridal Shower: Gifts given at traditional bridal showers should have a focus on what the bride likes, wants, or needs. Common gift ideas include vases, cookware, champagne glasses, sleepwear, fine linens, picture frames, and home decor items. You can also consider personalizing your gift idea by giving the bride-to-be a custom shower gift such as custom wine glasses, his and hers mugs, or a personalized cutting board. You can customize these items with the bride-to-be’s initials, a heartfelt love quote, or her upcoming wedding date to make her gift more unique.

Avoid gifting the bride with inappropriate items at her bridal shower since a variety of family members will probably be attending the bridal shower. However, if you’re familiar with the bride and her family’s sense of humor, you can use your own discretion. Keep in mind though that some gifts are more suited for her bachelorette party than her bridal shower.

For a Couple Wedding Shower: If you’re attending a couple’s shower, stick to co-ed wedding gifts from the couple’s registry. Gifts related to home decor such as an engraved glass vase with a custom quote or a personalized pillow make the perfect couple gift. You can also consider kitchen and bath items, barware, or any honeymoon needs.

After you’ve selected a gift idea, you can pair your selection with a thoughtful bridal shower card. Your card should include a heartfelt message to the bride along with well wishes for her next chapter. Reference our guide on what to write in a bridal shower card to complete your note.


Is Cash Acceptable as a Bridal Shower Gift?

While cash is acceptable as a wedding gift, do your best to pick out a gift for the bridal shower. Taking the time to choose a gift for the bride-to-be shows your care and thought, which she’ll appreciate afterwards. Start with looking at her bridal or wedding registry to make the gift selection process quicker.

What to Do If You’re Not Attending?

If you’re not attending the bridal shower but have been invited, be sure to send a bridal shower gift in the mail as proper etiquette. If you’re unable to send a gift, you should send a handwritten note congratulating the bride-to-be on her upcoming day.

Bridal Shower Hostess Gifts

A lot of work goes into planning a bridal shower, from organizing the guest list to setting up day-of. As the bride-to-be, you can show your gratitude to the bridal shower hostess by giving her a heartfelt gift, paired with a handwritten thank you note. Consider giving her a spa gift certificate to unwind, a pair of custom mason jars, a gift card to her favorite shop, a cute canvas tote bag customized with her initials, or personalized stationery for her office space.


Packaging Your Gift

Packaging may seem like a small detail but do your best to make sure your bridal shower gift is wrapped or boxed appropriately. How you present your gift can make an impression and influence how it’s received by the bride. Choose warm colors for the gift wrap or a decorative box with a stylish design.

Sending Bridal Shower Thank You Notes

The bride-to-be should always send bridal shower thank you notes to her guests to show her gratitude and appreciation. During the bridal shower, you can have the maid of honor or a bridesmaid takes notes while the bride opens her gifts. Afterwards, each guest can be thanked for their specific gift. Reference our simple guide on bridal shower thank you card wording to complete your thank you message.

For any other bridal shower related questions on your checklist, visit our detailed guide on bridal shower etiquette.