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Wedding Roles and Responsibilities of Parents

After getting engaged it may seem as if your to-do list is already a mile high. With plenty to figure out after your partner pops the question, one of the first items on your list should be calling your mom, dad, and relatives to share your exciting news. Your family will be overjoyed to hear that the two of you are taking the next step and the best part is that you can enlist Mom and Dad to help guide you throughout your wedding journey. In fact, your parents will play a major role in making sure that everything goes smoothly before, during and after your big day. Before deciding on a date, selecting your wedding invitations and assembling your team of vendors, you should begin by assembling team Mom and Dad.

Preparing a checklist and determining who will be in charge of what, will help you stay organized and celebrate your start of together. From the small moments and decisions to the advice and irreplaceable guidance, your parents will definitely be a shoulder to lean on throughout your wedding journey and much more. Use our wedding guide and timeline of roles and responsibilities to answer all of your questions, ensure you follow proper etiquette, and most importantly, help everyone celebrate the magic of this special moment.

Whether you’re looking for wedding roles and responsibilities of parents before, during or after the ceremony, we have you covered. Scroll through our entire guide or quickly jump to a specific section below.


What are the Roles of Parents at a Wedding?

Traditionally, the parents of the bride and groom had very distinct responsibilities. The parents of the bride host the wedding and the reception while the parents of the groom are in charge of organizing the wedding rehearsal dinner, and the list goes on. Although, with it becoming more common for the modern bride and groom to plan and host their own wedding, it’s understandable that traditions are ever evolving.

As a parent or step-parent, your role in your son or daughter’s wedding day will vary depending on your relationship and your involvement in the big day. As we enter a generation with more casual guidelines, your part in their wedding day will be less dependent on your expectations and historic roles and more dependent on the couples’ needs and request for your help. Below, we have listed the traditional roles of parents at a wedding. Whether you follow them or adapt, make sure that everyone involved is on the same page as you establish roles and responsibilities. Doing so will help the two of you appreciate your parents’ gracious help and alleviate some of the wedding planning stress for everyone involved. The specific roles, duties and responsibilities are listed below.


Mother of The Bride Responsibilities

There are certain duties that the mother of the bride traditionally handles before, during and after your big day. Use our list of traditional roles below that Mom can accomplish with ease.


Father of The Bride Responsibilities

There are certain wedding roles and responsibilities that are customary for the father of the bride to take care of. Use the traditional roles below to assign big day duties to Dad.

Parents of The Bride Responsibilities

There are certain big day responsibilities that the parents of the bride take on together. Use this list to create your own unique wedding roles list.


Mother of The Groom Responsibilities

The mother of the groom will surely want to add her touch and offer advice when it comes to planning your wedding day. Allow her to give input and share in the planning process by assigning some of these traditional tasks that she can be helpful with.


Father of The Groom Responsibilities

Although the father of the groom’s responsibilities may seem to get overshadowed by the father of the bride’s roles, it is still important for Dad to support his son and soon-to-be daughter-in-law on their big day. Below are the most typical responsibilities of the father of the groom.

Parents of The Groom Responsibilities

Traditionally, the groom’s parents take more of a back seat when it comes to planning the big day. Below is a list of the traditional wedding roles that the parents of the groom take on after the engagement.

Along with the traditional tasks listed above, the parents of the bride and groom are responsible for giving appropriate advice to the newlyweds as well as showing their love and support. Having clear and concise responsibilities and keeping open communication between each party is a vital component to making this event one-of-a-kind and stress free for everyone involved.