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Sympathy Messages: What to Write in a Sympathy Card

Who knows what to say when someone passes away? After hearing the news, many of us want to reach out with condolences, but aren’t sure exactly what to say. Often, some have no clue where to begin or what the right words are.  However, in the face of loss, sadness, and shock it’s vital that friends and family reach out to those grieving and let them know how much they’re cared for. So if you’re looking for the right sympathy messages or what to write in a sympathy card, look to our guide below.

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Understanding What To Say In A Sympathy Card

It’s no easy task to sign a heartfelt sympathy card, but it is the right thing to do. You may sit and ponder things like what you would want those close to you to say in a moment like this. You may begin to write and then worry you might say the wrong things. It’s important to remember that in darkness sometimes all you need to be reminded of is a little light. Even though writing a card that says, ‘Sorry for your loss,’ isn’t easy, it doesn’t mean that it isn’t important. And your condolence messages may be just the light that person needs.

The following sympathy messages are meant to give you a guideline to follow for bringing warmth to a grieving heart. Use them as they are, combine them or customize them to express your feelings.

Sympathy Card Wording Examples

Whether you want to express your own feelings, acknowledge the feelings of others, share a memory or offer ongoing support, you’re going to need to put all of these sentiments into the right words. Remember that you can be brief and still come off as warm and comforting. Let your own judgment as well as these examples guide you in drafting your sympathy messages with a serious and sincere tone.

Examples of Sympathy Card Wording:

Loss Of A Father Sympathy Messages

They say that a father’s guiding hand always sits on the shoulder of his children. And, although he may be in a better place, losing such a strong figure in life is one of the hardest things many of us will go through. Think about retelling how this person’s father lived, how he smiled and how he loved when drafting a sympathy card messages for the loss of a father. Additionally, consider visiting our additional resource on Miss You Dad Quotes and Messages.


Loss Of A Mother Sympathy Messages

Just as with the loss of a father, losing your mother is profound. It can be of great comfort for a grieving person to hear how much you admired and cared for their mother. Extend your caring thoughts, admiration, and words of condolences with these examples.


Loss Of a Husband Sympathy Messages

The bond between a husband and his partner is unlike any other. In the face of death, it’s important for those that he has left behind to know how sorry you are for their immense loss.


Loss Of a Wife Sympathy Messages

Few events in life are as painful as the death of your spouse, your partner for life. If a loved one you know is going through the loss of their wife use these words to guide you in comforting their grieving heart. These short sympathy messages extend caring thoughts and support.


Loss Of A Coworker Sympathy Card Messages

Going from seeing someone across the hall on a daily basis to never seeing him/her again is hard to fathom. Look to these kind words of sympathy for the loss of a coworker to help guide you when drafting your short sympathy note for someone you work with.


Loss Of A Pet Sympathy Card Messages

The furry friends in our lives become part of the family immediately– and grieving the loss of an animal companion is a difficult process. Just remember that those close to us live forever in the memories we keep. Remind your loved one of that with your words of condolence for the loss of their pet.


Condolences To A Friend Who Lost Someone Special

The loss of someone dear to us is never easy, but your loved one going through this grieving time may take comfort in the fact that you acknowledge his or her loss. Let these compassionate condolence messages guide your wishes.


Additional Sympathy Sentiments

Are you looking for additional sympathy sentiments and messages that aren’t written above? If so, look below for more examples of sympathy wording, or look to our bible verses about family or family quotes resources for additional messaging examples.


What To Write On Funeral Flower Bouquet

We’re all aware of the tiny little card that comes clipped to a beautiful bouquet of flowers. When sending a funeral flower bouquet, here are some ideas to look to concerning what exactly to say. Short and sweet is the best way to share your emotions on the tiny blank space this small sympathy card provides.


How To Sign A Sympathy Card

How you sign your sympathy card will depend to a certain extent on the message that you’ve written. Here are some closings that you can use before signing your name.


Tip: Avoid using overly casual language like “Best,” as a sign off.

What NOT To Write On A Sympathy Card

Now that you have some solid guidance for what to write in your condolence messages, we want to also leave you with things that should be left out of your sympathy card.

Don’t: Use harsh words like “Death,” “Died,” or similar. Additionally, don’t include any details from the person’s passing in the letter, as this may bring up bad memories.

Avoid saying: “I know how you feel,” “This happened for a reason,” “He/she was so young,” and  similar sentiments that may not be taken well by every audience.

Sitting down and writing a sympathy card, no matter what the circumstance, is never an easy task. Use your own judgment and our examples to help guide you through the process. There aren’t set rules for this. The best advice we can give is to write from the heart in conveying your feelings.

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