Reciting your vows to the one you love is an exciting once in a lifetime experience. You get to speak from your heart and feel the support and love from family and friends that have gathered for your wedding day. Planning your ceremony can be time-consuming between planning the order of the ceremony, designing wedding programs and picking the right officiant — but it is important to give yourself time to write personal vows for your significant other.
Don’t worry if you are having trouble knowing where to start or what to include. We’ve got you covered with all the information you need to start writing. We have provided five examples and provide a template as a personalized mockup of how your wedding vows for him and wedding vows for her could look.
Wedding Vow Template
This template will give you an idea of what elements to include in your wedding vows. Fill in the required fields to get your personalized vow mockup. Don’t forget to add personalization and check out the tips and examples below.
, I feel like the person in the world to be standing here with you. You’re my best friend, confidant, my biggest supporter and my favorite person. You are , , and I am so to have met you. From the moment that you came into my life, I I can still remember that very first moment that I saw you, After you came into my life I felt and knowing how you make me feel, I can’t imagine my life without you.
I promise to you and you for all of my days. I promise to be the best to you and to cherish every moment of
I love you with and I can’t wait to this new chapter of our lives together.
How to Write Wedding Vows
There are a couple of ways to look at the structure of vows, one simple way is to include past present and future elements of your relationship. These questions will give you a better ideas of how to write your wedding vows.
- “What made you fall in love with them?”
- “Why are you excited to marry them?”
- “How do you feel right now?”
- “What promises do you want to make for the future?”
If you still are having trouble knowing what to write, try writing about your relationship in journal entries. Start by writing down your favorite qualities, habits and memories about your significant other. Next, jot down your memories of important milestones, how you met, moving in, the proposal, any pivotal event in your relationship. Then answer the questions listed above, the more specific you get, the more personal your vows will be.
After writing and thinking for a couple of days, you will surely have a lot of great material to work with. Go through and highlight sentences that best capture how you feel and start putting those ideas together into vows that fit you and your relationship.
Wedding Vow Do’s and Don’ts
There aren’t any strict guidelines surrounding wedding vows as they should be unique to you. However, there are some standards about what you should and shouldn’t include in your vows and what steps to take when preparing for the big day:
- Do start writing your vows well in advance — Don’t stress about them
- Do get personal — Don’t overshare with your wedding guests
- Do speak from your heart — Don’t feel pressure to get emotional/sappy if that isn’t who you are
- Do add a couple jokes if that’s part of your personality— Don’t make it all a joke and try to refrain from using profanity
- Do be mindful of the guests at your wedding — Don’t cater your vows to the opinions of others
- Do read your vows to someone in advance — Don’t read them to your partner
- Do practice reading through your vows — Don’t over-rehearse them so they sound artificial
Unique Wedding Vow Ideas
In addition to personalized wedding vows, many brides opt for unique vow ideas. These ideas are a great way to set your wedding apart. Some of these special ideas could include:
- Reading an excerpt from a book or poem that has significant meaning in your relationship and life together
- Having children and other family members read an excerpt or tell a story about the couple
- Tying in a meaningful tradition/ceremony into your vows for a personal wedding ceremony addition. Include a ceremony that represents your heritage or use one of these examples below:
- Sailor knot tying ceremony to symbolize your strong bond
- Tree planting ceremony to symbolize growing together
- Sand pouring ceremony symbolizing your unity
For a personal and romantic touch, try placing a beautiful framed picture of you two or a meaningful quote at the entrance to your ceremony. “Perfect vows” look different for every couple, there is no “one size fits all” formula. As long as you write from your heart your partner will love and appreciate every word.